Saturday, September 02, 2006
MANIPULATIVE PEOPLE .... GOTTA LOVE 'EM (NOT)
If you've ever been manipulated by someone you love or respect or thought was a friend, then you MUST read this book. It will free your mind, make you more aware, and help you to not be ma-ni-pu-la-ted again. Er...... at least you'll become aware you were/have been manipulated. And, as time goes by, you'll start to pick up on cues and eventually find yourself in a position where you won't be the target of any more manipulations.
Knowledge protects, right ! !
So, to begin with here is my personal recommendation. It's a small book, a quick read (for those of you who aren't into reading much) and the title is:
"IN SHEEP'S CLOTHING
Understanding and Dealing with Manipulative People"
by: George K. Simon, Jr., Ph.D.
.....and here's a little quote from the back of the book cover:
"Whether it's your mate or child who knows how to push your buttons, the co-worker who quietly undermines your efforts while professing to be helpful, or the boss who preys on your weaknesses, manipulative people have two goals: to win and to look good doing it. Often those they abuse are ignorant of, or only vaguely aware of, what is happening to them."
The book is immensely helpful to us who think that all people are looking out for our best interests (and this includes parents/spouses/friends).
The book helps you to spot weaknesses in your character that can set you up for manipulation.
Enjoy your new adventure into finding out about the true nature of people. Not everything is as it seems. I can say this because of personal experience.
Like it or not, once you start reading about manipulators, agressive personalities, psychopaths, you'll never look at this world with the same pair of innocent eyes. Sorry if this will take away any joy in your life. But 'truth' will keep you ... and your children ... safe.
~ The Mediator
Friday, September 01, 2006
HATS OFF TO AUTHOR ANNA C. SALTER, PH.D.
I'm not a young person, neither am I an old person. In my middle age, I have discovered something that has helped me understand my life.
This 'something' has had a miracle-like effect on my well-being.
My life has been, up to now, like I was stuck in mud, not understanding why my life didn't work, why I was miserable most of the time, why I developed this, what I call, a "guilt-gene" that pretty much dictated what I would/could/should do with every move of my life - up until this past year or so.
Anna Salter has written several books. All, of which, I would highly recommend to anyone/everyone - no matter who you are.
The subject matter is PSYCHOPATHS/PREDATORS.......and these two words were never thought of consciously by me before being introduced to several authors, Anna Salter, being one of them.
Now, no way am I professing to be a specialist in the area of psychopaths/predators, but once you begin reading on the issue, it will make your eyes pop! ! ! Your mind will race, like Nascar, with moments in your life.....with those most important people in your life....like those times you can't fully explain to yourself...., well, at least that's what happened to me.
IF....your life is not working.
IF....that special someone in your life continually causes chaos in your
relationship.
IF....you are unable to focus on your own future, your own ideas, your
own goals without being c-o-n-t-i-n-u-a-l-l-y distracted by lots &
lots of DRAMA, then you need to read some of Anna's books.
~ The Mediator
Sunday, August 27, 2006
WHO AM I ? ?
How do I possibly get this down on paper, it's something that in reality doesn't make any sense at all. It is something I have thought of on-and-off, for many, many years .... so many years that it seems to be coming to a head and I am finding that I think of this issue daily.
What is it, you ask, that makes my mind wander back and forth. It is something that many children ask themselves at some point in their growing up years, hoping that their parents aren't really their parents. But, I never was one to do this to myself. It all started about 25 years ago - mostly as a joke, but today has become more of an irritation of sorts.
The 'issue' that is torturing me is this...........am I adopted (?) was I a baby who was switched at birth (?) or was some kind of baby switch done around 18 months old (?).
Now for the facts. I'm in my 50's. I have four sisters and one brother. None of them do I look like. Nor do I look like my mother or father or grandparents or aunts or uncles.
It has been a sort of family joke that I'm the milkman's daughter. Everyone gets a chuckle at that, especially when we are at a family gathering and someone new to the family will say to me with complete surprise "You're (so and so's) sister, daughter ! ! You don't look anything like the rest of the family."
But back even further, to the beginning of the questions that have been raised, not by me, but by my mother. Many, many years ago she relayed an unusual story to me and the family. From time to time, she brings this up and it has made me wonder what, if anything, this story rings of some sort of truth - something maybe even my own mother doesn't seem to be conscious of.
The story goes like this.....when I was about 18 months old, I was quite something. I was talking quite a bit (apparently quite unusual for the time) and my aunt, my mother's sister (who was pregnant at this time) thought I was just the most wonderful child. I, like my parents, had dark black hair and bright blue eyes. I was just beautiful ! ! !
The story gets quite sad at this point. My aunt, who was pregnant, gave birth to twin boys. But she, and her two sons, died in childbirth. It was a very traumatic time for my mom and her family. Something I cannot even imagine the grief they were experiencing. But, here is where the story takes the strange twist ..... my mother relates that the day my aunt and her boys died, she put me to bed. When she picked me up in the morning, from my crib, I had this incredible change of hair color and eye color - going from black hair to blonde and eyes from bright blue to green. Go figure.
Now I never, ever gave that story any credence of truth, although I thought it was a wildly impossible event, but my mom insists it was absolutely true. I went from black hair/blue eyes to blonde hair/green eyes overnight. Is this medically possible? I know that babies eyes do change color. But haircolor too - overnight?
Could it be from the trauma the family was experiencing?? Could my mom have been so filled with grief that she didn't recognize/experience that her child was (maybe) not her child?? None of this story logically makes any sense to me.
But my mom, who is now 82, still sticks by this story - the hair/eye color change that happened overnight. What am I to make of this??
To continue on with the story I should tell you that I love to go yard-sailing, as we call it around here. Usually I go with one or two or three of my sisters, since we all love to find a good "bargain" now and then.
Every weekend, as we stop to check out the 'sales', it never fails that someone will talk to one of my sisters (we are all very friendly) and say to that person "Oh, and this is your sister too." ..... and be referring to the other one or two sisters who are with us. But never, NEVER, do they include me in the referring. For the last couple of years it's just been something we've all laughed at. But, it's just getting weirder and weirder.
A week ago, I took my mom to the hospital to get some blood drawn. We sat down next to another elderly lady. As it turned out, she and my mom were friends in their younger days and they talked for sometime until we had to leave. My mom introduced me to this woman as her 'oldest daughter'. The woman said "You're kidding, I would never have guessed she was one of your children. She doesn't look like any of the others I know." Well, you know my mom and I brought up the old joke of me being the milkman's daugher. Everyone laughed.
But, this is just getting rediculous.
Yesterday, at two separate yardsales, people talked to my other sister and said things like "Oh, and so-and-so is your sister, you look just like her." I was just so irritated by it all I walked away. Determined not to stand there and say (as I usually do) "I'm so-and-so's sister too." It's just getting to be too much for me.
And, I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO ABOUT IT. It's on my mind alot. Can't shake the feeling that there's something more to this whole story than I may ever find out. It's a mystery (or maybe it's not) that I want to solve, to settle in my own mind.
Anyone have any suggestions??? I am actually asking myself this question. But as yet I have not come up with an answer - except to try to do a dna test. But how would I bring that up to my mom without offending her or scaring her?
My personal feeling is that someone switched me in my crib when I was 18 months old. But that's probably too conspiritorial for it to have any truth. And I'm not a crazy person. Just trying to figure out an answer to this crazy issue in my life.
~ The Mediator
Tuesday, July 25, 2006
Ponerology/Psychopaths/Condoleeza Rice
This article was taken from:
http://signs-of-the-times.org/signs/signs.php
Signs of the Times for Mon, 24 Jul 2006
Signs Editorial:
Condoleezza Pregnant: Giving Birth to Monster
by: Laura Knight-Jadczyk
Rice sees bombs as "birth pangs"
Condoleezza Rice has described the plight of Lebanon as a part of the "birth pangs of a new Middle East" and said that Israel should ignore calls for a ceasefire."This is a different Middle East. It's a new Middle East. It's hard, We're going through a very violent time," the US secretary of state said."A ceasefire would be a false promise if it simply returns us to the status quo."Such a step would allow terrorists to launch attacks at the time and terms of their choosing and to threaten innocent people, Arab and Israeli, throughout the region."
I have to say that, as the mother of five children, these remarks stopped me cold in my tracks. Aside from the obvious question "what can Condoleezza Rice - a woman who has never given birth - know about "birth pangs"? - there is another more compelling question: what kind of human being can be so callous as to say such a thing when tens of thousands of mothers in the Middle East have suffered the unimaginable grief of seeing their beautiful babies crushed under the jackboots of rapacious Imperialism and religious fanaticism?
In Norman Finkelstein's book Beyond Chutzpah, he writes:
In the course of preparing the chapters of this book devoted to Israel's human rights record in the Occupied Territories, I went through literally thousands of pages of human rights reports, published by multiple, fiercely independent, and highly professional organizations - Amnesty International, Human Rights Watch, B'Tselem (Israeli Information Center for Human Rights in the Occupied Territories), Public Committee Against Torture in Israel, Physicians for Human Rights - Israel - each fielding its own autonomous staff of monitors and investigators.
Except on one minor matter, I didn't come across a single point of law or fact on which these human rights organizations differed.
In the case of Israel's human rights record, one can speak today not just of a broad consensus - as on historical questions - but of an UNQUALIFIED consensus. All these organizations agreed, for example, that Palestinian detainees have been sytematically ill treated and tortured, the total number now probably reaching the tens of thousands.
Yet if, as I've suggested, broad agreement has been reached on the FACTUAL record, an obvious anomaly arises: what accounts for the impassioned controversy that still swirls around the Israel-Palestine conflict?
To my mind, explaining this apparent paradox requires, first of all, that a fundamental distinction be made between those controversies that are real and those that are contrived.
To illustrate real differences of opinion, let us consider again the Palestinian refugee question.
It is possible for interested parties to agree on the facts yet come to diametrically opposed moral, legal, and political conclusions.
Thus, as already mentioned, the scholarly consensus is that Palestinians were ethnically cleansed in 1948.
Israel's leading historian on the topic, Benny Morris, although having done more than anyone else to clarify exactly what happened, nonetheless concludes that, morally, it was a good thing - just as, in his view, the "annihilation" of Native Americans was a good thing - that, legally, Palestinians have no right to return to their homes, and that, politically, Israel's big error in 1948 was that it hadn't "carried out a large expulsion and cleansed the whole country - the whole Land of Israel, as far as the Jordan" of Palestinians.
However repellant morally, these clearly can't be called FALSE conclusions.
Returning to the universe inhabited by normal human beings, it's possible for people to concur on the facts as well as on their moral and legal implications, yet still reach divergent POLITICAL conclusions.
Noam Chomsky agrees that, factually, Palestinians were expelled; that, morally, this was a major crime; and that, legally, Palestinians have a right of return. Yet, politically, he concludes that implementation of this right is infeasible and pressing it inexpedient, indeed, that dangling this (in his view) illusory hope before Palestinian refugees is deeply immoral.
There are those, contrariwise, who maintain that a moral and legal right is meaningless unless it can be exercised and that implementing the right of return is a practical possibility.
For our purposes, the point is not who's right and who's wrong but that, even among honest and decent people, there can be a real and legitimate differences of political judgment.
This having been said, however, it bears emphasis that - at any rate, among those sharing ordinary moral values - the range of political disagreement is quite narrow, while the range of agreement quite broad."
Let's run that by one more time: The scholarly consensus is that Palestinians were ethnically cleansed in 1948 and Israel's leading historian, Benny Morris, thinks that this was a good thing.
And now, Condoleezza Rice thinks that further ethnic cleansing of the Middle East by the psycho-bullies of Israel is just "birth pangs" of a "New Middle East."
Most Westerners have been brainwashed to think that the "Arab-Israeli Conflict" is some kind of old, historical hatred, a "cosmic clash of religions, cultures, civilizations. This is what Finkelstein refers to as a "contrived controversy." It is all bunk and mystification and it serves to blow smoke on the so-called "Two State Solution" that is the favored political gambit of most normal, decent, humane and moral people. Noam Chomsky favors this view to some extent, but I sometimes wonder how a person can have any moral fiber at all if they, on the one hand, agree that a deed is totally morally reprehensible, and on the other hand, suggest that righting the wrong is not feasible.
For the rest of the article, go over to 'signs'
http://signs-of-the-times.org/signs/signs.php
Tuesday, July 18, 2006
Someday, We All Will Wake Up To This Life
You can read more at:
http://www.sott.net
Signs Editorial:
Dispatch from Palestine - Nablus: "It is our life"
by: Silvia Cattori
Our friend Silvia Cattori sends this report from Nablus:
Every night the city of Nablus is shaken by the sounds of war, sounds that drive away sleep. One awakens with a start, not knowing if one has slept, not slept, or if we are in a waking nightmare. There is shooting, nearby explosions resonate, go off in the distance, and return as an echo.
You don't know what is happening or where it is happening. At first, you are very worried, then you stop thinking about it. One waits for daybreak with resignation.
The people around tell you it is like that every day of the year here in the district of Nablus, that nothing has changed since 2000, that it is simply part of the panoply of the war of terror waged by Israel, added on top of the countless other repressive measures.
Soldiers regularly penetrate the small alleys of Nablus or its villages at night. They break down doors, throw grenades. House by house they search for men they say are "wanted", are "suspects". They force families out on the street, then they search, breaking everything, and if they don't find what they are looking for, they order mothers to call their sons to hand themselves in via the loud speakers. If the "suspect" doesn't appear, they may arrest the father, the brothers, or blow up the house. They leave before dawn.
The shooting ceased after midnight.
But the fiercest fighting started at 4:00 this morning when the city was shaken by a strong explosion. Then intense shooting. The sound of the shooting was twice drowned out by the voices of the muezzin, voices going far, returning as an echo as we held our breath.
What happened tonight during the raid was not the usual. Israeli troops arrived around 4 am without making a sound, by surprise. Generally, the soldiers don't come face to face with combatants because the wanted men hide. They know they are hunted and, with their poor rifles, are no match. But this morning, the lookouts resisted. The fighting lasted several hours. The Israeli army lost one dead and six others wounded, several very seriously.
Four young Palestinians were captured and taken away by the soldiers. They are undergoing interrogation by Shen Bet. The information that they will manage to extort will serve to justify the next round of raids and punitive actions. We are waiting for the army to return at any moment and know that the repression will be all the more severe as the dead soldier is the son of the commander in charge of the region.
The people are at the end of their ropes. Israel has humiliated them, starved them, taken away all of their rights. They live here as prisoners. When people present themselves at the checkpoints - which are military zones where the soldiers amuse themselves by installing a reign of terror - they are humiliated, arrested, beaten. The young - those between 14 and 30 years old - are not allowed to pass. They must take, at great risk, the mountain paths.
A student at An-Najah University was arrested at the checkpoint one year and one-half ago and is still being held for having slapped a soldier who gave him a body search.
After six years of deprivation and massacres, one senses the people are all the more revolted and on edge that, beyond the persecutions of Israel, that they will also undergo the strangulation by Europe. A scandalous Europe that punishes and starves an entire people for having voted for Hamas. It only reinforces their spirit of resistance. To rebel is the only thing that remains for them to protect their battered dignity. Because of this, one senses they are determined, ready to hold out against the entire world until that moment when the latter finally feels the full shame of having committed such a horrendous crime, until it understands that demanding the respect of their stolen rights is the legitimate right of the Palestinians.
It remains that what happened tonight will not be without serious consequences for them. The Israeli army will return to punish them all the more ferociously. But they continue on with their work, proceed as if nothing had happened. They look at you with the calm regard of those who know they have humanity on their side. It is their strength. "It is our life," they let calmly answer when you worry for them.
HELL
I sit here in my home, drinking a glass of wine, reading and watching the massacre of men, women and children and am horrified to the depths of my soul. I feel guilty that I sit here seemingly safe. I feel guilty. What can one do??????????
This article was taken from an alternative news website:
http:///sott.net/signs/editorials/signs2006718_Hell.php
Signs of the Times for Tue, 18 Jul 2006
Signs Editorial:
"Hell"
by: Henry See
What do you do when the entire world is siding with murder? When the life of one Israeli soldier is worth more than the lives of an entire civilian population? Make that two civilian populations - Gaza and Lebanon. What do you do when the deliberate gunning down and bombing of villagers evacuating their town calls forth no shouts of protest, when the premeditated massacre of women and children is called "defence"?
Israel is given free reign to kill as many Arabs as its blood lust demands while the world looks on in silence, or worse, by suggesting those crazed Arab terrorists should calm down, implying "they deserve it".
Israeli psychopath in chief Olmert lets it be known in no uncertain terms that the bombing of Lebanon will continue until the two captured Israeli soldiers are returned. The headlines in the west read "Israeli foreign minister lays out conditions for ceasefire with Hezbollah". They're joking, right? Olmert's violence is played out as an offer for peace!
But it's no joke. It is simply business as usual in a media that is owned and operated as a subsidiary of the Zionist state. The media turns everything upside down: revenge murders carried out with a powerful military armed by US money are 'defence', while people fighting for their lives with homemade rockets and old rifles are 'terrorists'.
Welcome to the pathocracy.
Robert Fisk reported last week on a village in Lebanon whose occupants were ordered by the Israelis to evacuate before their village was to be bombed. As the villagers left, the Israeli's targeted not their homes and businesses, but the fleeing villagers themselves. They were killed. All of them, men women and at least 9 children.
Then John Bolton has the gall the step up and say "I think it would be a mistake to ascribe moral equivalence to civilians who die as the direct result of malicious terrorist acts," he added, while defending as "self-defense" Israel's military action, which has had "the tragic and unfortunate consequence of civilian deaths".
"It's simply not the same thing to say that it's the same act to deliberately target innocent civilians, to desire their deaths, to fire rockets and use explosive devices or kidnapping versus the sad and highly unfortunate consequences of self-defense."
Did you catch that? The willing and knowing slaughter of over 200 Lebanese civilians by Israel in the past 5 days is only the "sad and highly unfortunate consequences of self-defense"?!
Can you see how far down in the muck of psychopathic values we have become mired? Can you see that there is no humanity in Bolton's words? That it is a sound bite meant to reassure the American public that the Palestinians and the Lebanese are no better than animals, that it is OK to slaughter them wholescale in the name of "defence"? That it is meant to put you back to sleep so that all the noise of those bombs is disturbing your rest?
And this just in: "Race to Rescue 20,000 Brits Trapped in Lebanon Hell". It wasn't hell a week ago. You know, before Israel started bombing it back to the stone age.
But it's their own damn fault, right?
We read today as well that "UK Foreign Secretary Margaret Beckett has accused Hezbollah militants of 'pouring petrol on the bonfire'"! You mean the fire ignited in Gaza when Israel launched the invasion? Or maybe the fire ignited when the great, Western democracies decided the Palestinians needed to be collectively punished for voting for Hamas? Or could it be the fire that started to burn when Palestine was taken away from the people that had been living there for thousands of years and given to the Jews?
Of course not! It is simply because Arabs are different than "you and me". They don't value life the way "we" do. After all, anyone else on the globe would have been happy to turn over their ancestral land to the Jews after WW2, right? And when the new residents started demanding more and more and more, anyone but the Arabs would have been happy to continue giving them everything they demanded. Wouldn't you? If only those unreasonable Arabs were as unattached to their land as Americans...
Let's be honest here, if soldiers were to come and break down the doors of your home at night, you would welcome them in, offer them a smoke and a drink, wouldn't you? "Hey, just make yourselves comfortable. What's mine is yours. It's just those damn Arabs, be they Palestinian or Lebanese or Iraqi who go and make a fuss about searches that destroy all their belongings and heirlooms, or "accidents" that kill their children, or bulldozers that raze their houses. Anyone else in the world would have been happy to do any of this after all that the Jews suffered in WW2. Wouldn't they?
I suppose it's just bad luck that the Zionists had to choose the one place on the planet where they weren't going to be welcome.
Monday, June 05, 2006
SECRET HISTORY REVEALED . . . . .
I have recently read the above mentioned book "The Secret History of the World & How to Get Out Alive" by Laura Knight-Jadczyk. As a matter of fact, there is so much information contained within these pages, that I have begun re-reading this book.
If you liked the Da Vinci Code book by Dan Brown, you'll be absolutely fascinated by this definitive account of the world's history. The book takes you on a fascinating historical ride. One you'll never find anywhere else.
The phrase "nothing is as it seems" is truly the truth here. Our world, our beliefs, as we think they are, are not real - not the truth. And, the truth IS quite painful.
Do you have the guts to read this book?
~ The Mediator
Wednesday, May 31, 2006
PEOPLE ALWAYS DISAPPOINT YOU IN THE END
Well, I'm totally disappointed with this now. And, if you care to find out why, if you're someone who goes to check out the site often, read the link below and you'll understand.
http://www.wingtv.net/thorn2006/rense1.html
Totally disgusted.
~ The Mediator
Monday, April 17, 2006
I USED TO BE A 'NEW AGER'
I spent all my free time reading about how to ascend. There were also classes on rituals on attracting abundance, radiant health, angelic protection, finding my higher-self, chanting and healing.
For some time, I was part of a healing group, and we attracted many clients (although I was never paid or compensated for my part in this group - neither were any of the other individuals who participated - only the "healer" took in all the $$). But, we all though we were doing such necessary and benevolent work, that we never thought about any type of monetary compensation. We were a group of truth seekers, honest as the day was long, and just wanting to 'help' and 'assist' those who asked.
I remember telling people (family, friends, anyone who would listen) that to make their lives better, they needed to do this 'affirmation' or that 'intention' and things would work out for the best ! ! All the while, as I was INTENDING and AFFIRMING, my life was spiraling out of control ...... on a downhill slide ..... but I was unable to recognize any of it, as I was so caught up in my belief of 'intending' and 'affirming' and 'believing' that I would be blessed.
Well, I wasn't blessed at all.
One of the books we, in our little group, were urged to purchase and read was called "THE KEYS OF ENOCH" by JJ Hurtak. At that time, the books were in limited supply (or so we were told) and to purchase one (at a cost of $65.00) would be the best investment for our little ascention group. So, we all scraped up the cost of the book, and read and studied.
Sometime after this, I remember coming to a small realization that all that I was doing, to make my life better, was NOT working. That I needed to STOP and backup and figure out whether my praying, hoping, waiting for help to arrive was the RIGHT thing to do.
Well, it must have been time, because one day I just STOPPED EVERYTHING. No more rituals, intentions, chants, visualizations, etc. I decided it was time to DO something. And, almost magically things began changing in my life - and for the better.
The magic for my has become the DOING. When faced with a situation, you need to stop focusing on someone or something to help make your problem(s) disappear. You need to DO something to make your problem(s) disappear.
The reason for this post is an article I recently came across. It made me realize how taken in I was by all this New Age trickery. And, like anything, you can be taken in so easily when you are feeling down-and-out, ill, emotionally vulnerable, searching for an answer to your life's problems.
Take it from me, just one person, just my opinion, but New Age is just another money making scheme. Keep your money, and DO.
Below is part of the article that I referred to.
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The article below was found on a blogger's site:
http://anti-cointelpro.blogspot.com/2006/04/who-is-jj-hurtak.html
Wednesday, April 12, 2006
WHO IS JJ HURTAK ?
To kick off this ambitious project, let us have a look at Don JJ Hurtak, the guy who started the whole “Keys of Enoch” deal and garnered such followers as the young Don Bernard “Drunvalo” Perona. Now a fully fledged psychic mafia Don in his own right.
Don James J "J.J." Hurtak's published bio says:
"J.J. Hurtak, Ph.D., Ph.D., M.Th. is a social scientist and futurist who studied at the University of California and the University of Minnesota."
Now, certainly he does not say that his degrees came from the University of California and the University of Minnesota... he only says he has degrees, followed by the names of two universities where he "studied." However, certainly, a reader would assume from this juxtaposition that his degrees came from those universities.
The fact is that his PhD is in social science and his other PhD in History and Oriental Studies, were obtained from the Universidad Autonoma Metropolitana, Mexico.
Regarding Hurtak's claims to have been at the Uni of California in 1973, we find the following.
The Book of Knowledge: The Keys of Enoch® (1973, 1975, 1977) makes the correlation that this Divine Name was the key behind the transcription code of chemical letters which develops the human body. In 1973 while at the University of California, Hurtak came to understand that there was a connection between the series of linguistic and genetic associations in the spelling of God’s name in the biblical Hebrew (YHVH).
http://www.keysofenoch.org/html/academy_learning_session__dna.html
Hurtak’s bio claims:
To read more, go check out this blogger's site.
Wednesday, April 12, 2006
RULES FOR DEALING WITH SOCIOPATHS
http://wandering-reflections.blogspot.com
THIRTEEN RULES FOR DEALING WITH SOCIOPATHS IN EVERYDAY LIFE......
Well, this is only a guide... is much better to read the book from which these rules came from, "The Sociopath Next Door" by Martha Stout.
1) The first rule involves the bitter pill of accepting that some people literally have no conscience.
2) In a contest between your instincts and what is implied by the role a person has taken on, go with your instincts.
3) When considering a new relationship, practice the Rule of 3s regarding the claims and promises a person makes, and the responsibilities he or she has.
4) Question authority.
5) Suspect flattery.
6) If necessary redefine your concept of respect. [based on fear?]
7) Do not join the game.
8) The best way to protect yourself is to avoid him, to refuse any kind of contact or communication.
9) Question your tendency to pity too easily.
10) Do not try to redeem the unredeemable.
11) Never agree, out of pity or any other reason, to help a sociopath conceal his or her true character.
12) Defend your psyche.
13) Living well is the best revenge.
And, I absolutely agree that #13....living well is the best revenge IS THE BEST THING YOU CAN DO FOR YOURSELF AND YOUR FAMILY.
~ The Mediator
A FAREWELL TO MY DOG, HONEY
Honey was a golden colored cocker spaniel that I rescued from a dog catcher on a cold February night. She was about 8 months old. I already had two other dogs, a Samoyed named Maxine and an all-american pooch named Baby. Honey was a wonderful addition to our family and home. Although, with three dogs, the workload could be extremely annoying, as I had to vacuum the house daily. And, during Spring and Fall, when the dogs were shedding, there were moments when I absolutely hated 'dog hair'. But never, did I hate the dogs.
In the winter, our families best friend was masking tape. Couldn't leave the house without a strip of that masking tape tapping on your coat, your sweater, your pants or sometimes the couch, chairs, side of the quilt on the bed, etc, etc, etc. But, even with all the added work for me, I never felt more loved than when I came home from errands, or being out and about for an entire day, and the three dogs would come running up to me, tails wagging, barking and running circles around me. It was pure l-o-v-e......magical, actually.
About 7 years after Honey joined the family, our first pooch, Baby, was put down. She had become very ill and it was time. I was with her (I went alone as my husband did not have the courage to be there with me) till the end. We brought her home and burried her in the back yard. The house seemed quite strange and empty without her.
Two and a half years later, Maxine was put down. Again, I was with her and my heart broke into a thousand pieces. Unlike Baby, who knew her time had come and didn't struggle....Maxine did struggle and it was extremely traumatic for her and for me. Now there was just Honey left to keep me company. And she did, for another two years. Then, I had to move. I had lived in my home for 15 years. And never once, in all my life, (and I had two other dogs before Baby, Maxine and Honey) had I ever been put in a position where I had to give up a pet. But, due to circumstances, now I did have to find a home for Honey.
During the process of selling my home, my Realtor's associate had to come to the house to show it to a client because my Realtor had to have some surgery. Deb (the assicoate) fell in love with Honey and commented to my Realtor that someday she would want a dog just like her. When my Realtor told Deb that I was looking for a home for Honey, Deb contacted me and we began what turned out to be a rather long and drawn out transition for Honey.
First, I took Honey to Deb's house for a long weekend to see how they both would react to each other. Deb was totally happy having Honey around for the three days. I was totally misearable. Honey was a bit confused.
Next, about a month later, we tried a longer boarding at Deb's. And again, both Deb and Honey got along fabulously. Emotionally I was devastated. Having had Honey for 10 years, it was like giving my child to another woman. I was jealous, scared, fearful, actually sick to my stomach. Moving day was now only a month away. Final preparations were being made by Deb and myself for Honey's permanent move.
The day of 'transition' for Honey was one of my saddest days. I woke early, took her for a long walk around the neighborhood. We walked through the woods, I made her waffles (her favorite people food) and packed her belongings. Later that day, we drove to Deb's and since Deb and I both lived on 'dead-end' streets, when I got there, Deb, Honey and I went for a walk along her road. As we finished our walk & approached Deb's home, I handed her the leash and bent down and hugged Honey, gave her a kiss and walked to my car.
Honey, of course, yipped and pulled on the leash, wanting to come with me. I never looked back, but drove home crying the whole way. The next day, we moved all our belongings out of the home we had lived in for 15 years and started a new journey.
Deb and I communicated via email weekly. She informed me of Honey's adjustments, the fun they were having together, and how much happiness she had brought into Deb's life. I was so glad that Honey was doing well. But I was going through terrible withdrawal symptoms of not having a pet to love, to greet me unconditionally when I came home. So time went by...........
After about 9 months, I contacted Deb via email. We had become friends. But, all along those nine months, even though she said I could come visit Honey anytime, I declined, as I did not want to confuse Honey and also seeing her would make me sad(er). Anyway, since so much time had passed, I told Deb, as Christmas was coming, and she wanted to go visit family who lived far away, that if she thought it would be ok, I could come over and take care of Honey while she visited family. Deb agreed ! ! !
Visiting Honey and caring for her for three days was wonderful. My children even got to see her. Honey took a little time warming up to us, but after some time, she was wagging her tail and climbing in our laps, licking our faces.
I also got to babysit Honey on one other occasion. Just an overnight, but at that time, I noticed she was thinner, walked with a limp and took a long time to get up out of her bed. I spoke w/Deb and she told me that she was steadily loosing weight, had a chronic uti and that she was sure that there was not much time left.
Two weeks later, Honey was put down. Deb called to let me know. We both cried and a couple weeks later, when the emotions weren't so raw, we went to dinner together to talk about Honey and how much happiness she brought into both our lives.
Well, I just wanted to put down on paper (so to speak) how much I loved my pets and how much I miss them, all of them - Buddy, Tippy, Baby, Maxine, Honey. Never have there been such wonderful companions.
I guess I'm feeling rather sad and wanting for the love of an animal companion. But that will have to wait.
~ The Mediator
Saturday, March 18, 2006
DO YOU FEAR A NUKE IS NEAR ? ?
Below is an article from Laura Knight-Jadczyk's blog. Be afraid, be very afraid.
18 March 2006
TERRORISM AND THE THREE SILLIES
This weekend's edition of http://www.sott.net
carries several important pieces that I would like to bring to everyone's attention and then I am going to present a fable that I read as a child that will shed some light on our present situation.
The first article is by Paul Craig Roberts: Is Another 9/11 in the Works? Paul points out that what is happening in global politics - i.e. Bush planning another war in the midst of losing the first one - is totally insane. Yet, as anyone can see, the rhetoric leading up to bombing Iraq was identical to the mad propagandistic ravings that pass for political discourse concerning Iran today. "Those who do not learn from history are doomed to repeat it." The immediate past tells us that Bush and the Neocons very definitely intend to make war on Iran. And yet, that is so insane that most of us can't grok it. The US Army is stretched to the breaking point, the economy is floating on illusion, the American people are a heartbeat away from unimaginable financial disaster, and yet Bush and the Warmongers are planning another hideously expensive war... or so it seems. Roberts states the case succinctly:
First of all, Bush lacks the troops to do the job. If the US military cannot successfully occupy Iraq, there is no way that the US can occupy Iran, a country approximately three times the size in area and population.
Second, Iran can respond to a conventional air attack with missiles targeted on American ships and bases, and on oil facilities located throughout the Middle East.
Third, Iran has human assets, including the Shia majority population in Iraq, that it can activate to cause chaos throughout the Middle East.
Fourth, polls of US troops in Iraq indicate that a vast majority do not believe in their mission and wish to be withdrawn. Unlike the yellow ribbon folks at home, the troops are unlikely to be enthusiastic about being trapped in an Iranian quagmire in addition to the Iraqi quagmire.
Fifth, Bush’s polls are down to 34 percent, with a majority of Americans believing that Bush’s invasion of Iraq was a mistake.
If you were being whipped in one fight, would you start a second fight with a bigger and stronger person?
That’s what Bush is doing.So, since Bush doesn't have the manpower or the moneypower (or even the cojones) to wage a proper war (I'm being sarcastic here since no war is ever "proper"), what's he gonna do?
The obvious answer is: Nukem!
Yup. It seems pretty clear that this is the answer that will suit. And Bush and gang have plenty of resources already on hand to do the job without making another blip in the current economic crisis; and just maybe, as a sideline, they can end up nuking Iraq too and "kill two birds with one stone". I mean, if you are going to start nuking, no reason to hold back, right? Solve all your problems with the same solution!
But there is a problem here: nuking Iran without provocation will absolutely enrage the whole rest of the world that is already feeling a lot of hostility toward the U.S. because there were no WMDs in Iraq not to mention the growing belief all over the planet that Bush and Co were complicit in the 911 attacks.
So, what to do? How to get justification to nuke Iran?
The answer is simple: "Those that do not learn from history are doomed to repeat it." The history indicates that Bush and Co are certainly quite capable of engaging in False Flag operations against their own country in order to justify their actions (things they wanted to do and planned to do in advance). As noted above, 911 is most likely just such a scenario even if I think that the Bush Gang were only complicit and did not carry out the entire conspiracy on their own. In that sense, I think that a lot of commentators are correct: the U.S. couldn't have pulled that off alone. But I digress.
Justifying the nuking of another country is going to take a bit more than a 911 type attack; you know, "like attracts like." That means that what we (at Signs of the Times) have been saying for some time is becoming more and more likely to transpire: a nuclear attack on the US devised and carried out as a False Flag operation designed to lay blame on Iran. Roberts presents this idea in the following way:
Readers, whose thinking runs ahead of that of most of us, tell me that another 9/11 event will prepare the ground for a nuclear attack on Iran. Some readers say that Bush, or Israel as in Israel’s highly provocative attack on the Jericho jail and kidnapping of prisoners with American complicity, will provoke a second attack on the US. Others say that Bush or the neoconservatives working with some “black ops” group will orchestrate the attack.
One of the more extraordinary suggestions is that a low yield, perhaps tactical, nuclear weapon will be exploded some distance out from a US port. Death and destruction will be minimized, but fear and hysteria will be maximized. Americans will be told that the ship bearing the weapon was discovered and intercepted just in time, thanks to Bush’s illegal spying program, and that Iran is to blame. A more powerful wave of fear and outrage will again bind the American people to Bush, and the US media will not report the rest of the world’s doubts of the explanation.
Reads like a Michael Crichton plot, doesn’t it?
Fantasy? Let’s hope so. I'm afraid that I don't exactly agree with this version. I don't think that minimizing American deaths will be an objective. On the contrary, I think that maximizing American deaths will be deliberately sought so as to maximize the fear and hysteria. That means a nuke attack on American soil - not on a ship - and probably highly populated soil at that.
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Moving on to the next item that caught my eye from the weekend edition of Signs: Robert C. Koehler writes a piece entitled Trust Us. In this article he tells the story of Ion Sancho, the election supervisor of Leon County, Fla., my home state. Koehler writes:
The problem is, there's an anti-democratic force rampaging across the country that wants ... privately conducted, secrecy-shrouded elections. The state of Florida even has a bizarre law outlawing manual recounts of election results. This removes all chance of public scrutiny from the process.
I humbly submit that this is nuts, and that if we don't scream out at the top of our lungs we're going to lose our democracy. What we're witnessing, I fear - and what isolated watchdogs like Sancho are warning us about, but cannot prevent all by themselves - is democracy's transition to expensive charade.I've been talking about this since the last election. When I saw what happened then, when the Signs Team had collected certain data, it was clear that fraudulent elections were already a fact of life in the U.S. Certainly, the 2000 election was the last fair election that was ever held in this country and that one was "given" to George Bush by trickery, bribery, coercion, blackmail, and having certain elements in place at the right place and time according to a devious plan. Once Bush had been declared president, he and his minions were then able to suppress any process that might have undone the "appointment." What's more, there were then able to set into motion the plan that ensured that whoever they want gets into office whereever and whenever they choose: manipulatable electronic voting.
So folks, its already a done deal. It's all over but the crying. There is NO chance whatsoever of anyone getting rid of the "Powers That Be" in the U.S. by way of the exercise of the vote. Anybody who suggests anything different to you is just living in denial or deliberately blowing smoke.
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The third item on the Weekend Signs Page that I want to talk about is J. Crofts The Two Americas. He writes:
There are two Americas.
There's the America most of you reading this actually believed in-or still believe in. That America is the fabled "land of the free, home of the brave".
...........and you'll have to go to Laura's blog to read the "rest of the story"..........
http://laura-knight-jadczyk.blogspot.com/
Sleep well...........the nightmares are sure to follow...........
~ The Mediator
Monday, March 13, 2006
ARE YOU AFRAID TO SPEAK WHAT IS ON YOUR MIND ? ?
What's been on my mind for sometime now is the fact that I find myself actually frightened about talking about what is going on in the news. Just a couple of weeks ago, I was shopping with my sisters and saw some Veterans holding up signs on the Keene, NH Common saying "Honk if you think Bush is lying" !
I first noticed that no one was honking their car horns. But, as I mentioned to my sisters that I totally agreed with the Vets, she jumped down my throat (which shocked me to bits), telling me that they (the Vets) were not only stupid but so was I. She went on to talk about the prez and how he is saving the usa from terrorists. That if it wasn't for his bravery we'd all be blown to pieces. That he made the right choice to go to war (war = we are right).
Wanting to keep peace in the family, I just simply said that I saw things differently. That I had a differing opinion and politely agreed to totally disagree with her.
What really scared me was that she became SO ANGRY, so quickly. She turned on me like I was some stranger trying to take her personal security, her emotional safety away from her.
After that, I was just wondering how many other people do not speak up, do not voice their opinions about what is going on in the world, in their country because others have a LOUDER voice, because of others who THREATEN to disrupt your life because you do not agree with them.
I look for differing opinions in the newspapers, but I see nothing of substance. Where are the 63% of Americans who do not agree with the current administration. Why are the newspapers not reporting what the 63% of us Americans think. Where are our hero's??
With that said..........you may want to continue reading on. This is from a blog I like. The title is 'IS ANYBODY GETTING IT YET' by Laura Knight-Jadczyk.
~ ~ The Mediator
http://laura-knight-jadczyk.blogspot.com
Is anybody getting it yet?
Last week some poor delusional soul wrote a comment to my previous post saying:
I'm as Liberal as Liberals come. And you're crazy. Bush will be gone in three years, whether the Republicans are or not. Do you actually think Bush, the man, is as smart as Hitler?
You're worrying up the wrong tree.
My response was:
No, I don't think that Bush is as smart as Hitler. I don't even think Hitler was that smart. But psychological deviants have something that normal people don't have: a special knowledge, a preternatural cunning, you might say, that assists them. You might want to read a bit about Ponerology to get a handle on what I mean. Bush may be gone in three years, but it won't be because he leaves the White House under his own steam. Take that to the bank.
This week there is more evidence of exactly what I wrote about last week.
First of all, let's consider some of the headlines. We are now told that Bush's popularity is at the lowest ever. The latest poll says that Bush's Approval Rating Falls to New Low - fewer Americans consider Bush likable, honest, strong and dependable. Meanwhile, we read Americans take their ringside seats for the great conservative crack-up.
Sounds pretty exciting, doesn't it?
But what was Congress doing while all this evidence that their great leader's capital has gone seriously into the red was being trumpeted? Why, following the Bush/Neocon agenda, of course!First of all, in spite of the fact that there are 30 US Reps for Bush Impeachment Inquiry, which one might assume includes the charge that Bush lied the US into a war, Congress is still Pimping for the Neocons: US congressmen press for Iran sanctions bill. Doesn't it occur to them that this whole Iran thing is identical to the Iraq lies about WMDs? Or are they really that stupid.
Meanwhile, on the home front, Congress is still following the Neocon agenda of destruction of the U.S. as a democracy in which the people have any rights at all: G.O.P. Senators Say Accord Is Set on Wiretapping and this Illegal Spying, Spineless Congress: Oversight by Capitulation, and then more destruction of citizens rights in this one: House votes to dump state food safety laws.
Are you getting it yet?
In another direction we notice Washington Post' To Cut 80 Newsroom Jobs.
Now, why do you suppose that is? Probably because people ARE voting with their pocket books and aren't buying newspapers like they used to; either they aren't reading or they are getting their news on the internet. What could the Post do to save itself? Well, something like starting to print the truth, something like engaging in real investigative journalism for a change. If the Post started blazoning in giant headlines things like: Scholars for 9/11 Truth - A Boeing 757 did not hit the Pentagon, and Important for 9/11 Research: Brain Blindness, you can bet they'd sell more papers than they ever dreamed of.
But they aren't doing that. Instead, they are downsizing, almost an admission of coming bankruptcy. Why would they do that? Why would any group of people such as Congress and Journalists choose financial ruin when they could save themselves by dealing with the truth?
Only one reason: there is something else they are more afraid of. As I have said, Bush wasn't doing all that illegal wiretapping on just plain folks for the past two years.
Of course, over the past few days I've wondered what could be done, if anything. Obviously, voting using the Diebold machines or other corrupted systems is not going to get it. You can't get anything through to other countries via the press either. The citizens of the U.S., and all their systems of government, have been effectively hog-tied. As I said, there's no chance of impeachment, and there's no chance of changing things by trying to vote the bastards out. Heck, if there was any chance of the latter, you can bet that there would be another 9/11 type incident just before the next elections and Bush would do his "Night of the Long Knives", declare himself dictator for "the good of Amurrika," and cancel the elections.
Well, it's going to take some thinking. In the meantime, the best thing everybody can do is share information at the grass-roots level until everybody is on the same page. People need to know certain things, and they need to have it repeated so that it will break through the programming that they have suffered. What things do they need to know? Well, the following are a good start:
Political Ponerology
Neoconservatism, the Israeli Lobby, and other Power Relations
The Most Powerful Weapon In The World - Strategic Communication Laboratories and the war for your mind
Evidence That a Frozen Fish Didn't Impact the Pentagon on 9/11 - and Neither Did a Boeing 757
94%
More people need to "get it" before anything at all can be done. So quit wasting your money and energy on things that just aren't going to do a thing.
Tuesday, February 21, 2006
WONDER WHY RELATIONSHIPS (MARRIAGES) DON'T LAST
Why, shortly after I got married, when I realized the marriage was in trouble and my husband constantly told me that it was MY fault, I went to see an Astrologer. She was wonderful. She told me many things that were right-on-the-money. And she flat out said that the marriage would NOT survive. That he was a totally different person that I was (now, at the time, I thought it was our personalities that were different.........hadn't heard about ponerology/psychopaths).
Of course, what was my response to this woman, this Astrologer, telling me that my marriage would not last - why it was to try even harder to make it work ! ! ! And I did, having two children in the attempt. (and I'm an intelligent person)
Little did I realize at the time that there are two absolutely different types of humans on this planet. (Of course, GeoWBush said that with his phrase: "You're either with us, or against us." Who knew you could apply that to relationships/marriages.
There's so much to say and I'm struggling to find the words to continue. So, you'll have to come back to find out what else went on ....... from my perspective, of course.
~ The Mediator
Tuesday, February 14, 2006
Love Day / Happy Valentine's Day
Maybe this isn't the time you want to have someone admire you and hope for you to return their attention/affection. Lately I've been reading alot. Here are some of the books I've read. Tell me if you find my list interesting............
First I read "IN SHEEP'S CLOTHING.....UNDERSTANDING & DEALING WITH MANIPULATIVE PEOPLE" by George Simon, Jr.
Next there was "STOP WALKING ON EGGSHELLS...TAKING YOUR LIFE BACK WHEN SOMEONE YOU CARE ABOUT HAS BORDERLINE PERSONALITY DISORDER" by Paul Mason & Randi Kreger.
And, finally I'm just beginning "WITHOUT CONSCIENCE" by Robert D. Hare.
These books all deal with individuals who have NO CONSCIENCE. Some people say that they make up possibly a quarter of our population.
Imagine, not having a conscience, not worrying about what you do, what you say, how you treat your wife, child, lover, parent, child, etc. Individuals who are not limited in what they do to others. I have known one. Actually, there are several that have been or are now in my life.
And, until you become aware of them, you might go through life thinking you are crazy.....or that there is something wrong with you.....or maybe that you need to be more loving/allowing/caring/aware/"turn the other cheek" type person. N.O.T.
There is a type of human being who is not like you and me. Who has no conscience. Who turns everything you try to explain to them about what it is that is bothering you about their behavior TO BLAME YOU FOR WHATEVER IS GOING WRONG IN THE RELATIONSHIP.
Creepy, nest pas. Damn right ! ! !
Well, there are some words you should google: Ponerology, for one. There are some wonderful websites on Borderline Personality Disorder. And, for one more time, I challenge you to check out:
http://ponerology.blogspot.com
http://laura-knight-jadczyk.blogspot.com
http://signs-of-the-times.org/signs/signs/php
also, there is this G.R.E.A.T. website about psychopaths.....
http://www.cassiopaea.com/cassiopaea/psychopath.htm
Sunday, February 12, 2006
GROWING OLDER.....IT'S A SIGN OF OUR TIMES
Not only that, but it's my birthday next week and I'm going to be 58 years old. Fortunately for me, I don't look my age, nor do I feel my age. If I close my eyes, I would swear that I was only in my late 20's. When I go shopping for clothes (and that's a rare occasion, as I just love living in my jeans) ..... I tend to be attracted to the type of clothes I wore back 30 years ago (man, was it THAT long ago). Of course, those clothes are not what I could, or would, wear today, but that's the strangeness of growing older. That is, unless, you watch TV or go to the movies alot. Seems that the actresses never age. Course that's another topic for another time! ! !
I went to a birthday party not too long ago. A friend of mine turned 60. Someone gave her this button to wear saying "60 is the new 30". Now,, I don't know if I'd go that far, but it does seem that my generation is struggling with the idea of our own immortality lately. If anything, I am assuming that my generation does not want to become what they have been witness to with their parent's generation - - constant doctor's visits ..... being drugged-up ..... walkers & wheel chairs ..... and nursing homes.
Personally, I'm not buying into the idea that getting older means major deterioration of body/mind. I have this picture of myself growing older. This is what I see (for me).........
I'm older (let's just say older than I am today), I'm out in my garden, tending to the chickens and llamas, enjoying the warmth of the sun and the sweetness of the spring air. Later on, I'll put on my straw hat, get in my pony cart (which is pulled by a llama), and trott down the lane to a friend's house for tea. That is how I see myself in the future.
My cottage is filled with books and music. There is no TV. There is a radio, though. People gather in town on Sundays. It's just something to do to connect with everyone who lives nearby. Picnic's are brought and food is shared. There is dancing and merriment. (Does it sound like I've been born in the wrong time line??).
Well, that's where I want to go in my old (older) age.
Where are you planning to go???
~ The Mediator
ps. Ever heard of the term "podcast". They remind me of the old radio shows you'd gather round as a family and listen to in the evenings. But now, you listen to it on your computer (or you can download it to an mp3 player thingy). But there's a super site that I'm enjoying alot. If you care to, check it out. Nothing ventured, nothing gained.
http://signs-of-the-times.org/signs/signs.php.
just click on "podcast". You'll see many topics to choose from. ENJOY ! !
Monday, January 30, 2006
SADNESS AND DESPAIR: IT'S SPREADING AROUND THE WORLD
My question at the moment is DOES ANYONE CARE ABOUT THE TRUTH ANYMORE??? I went to a family gathering this weekend. All anyone wants to talk about is their next vacation, how many points their child scored in last week's game, blah, blah, blah.
Now, family gatherings are mostly about small talk. But no one wants to honestly talk to one another and really get to know each other - what makes the other person tick. But I do. And, when you try to get the conversation going it seems that the person gets a 'deer-in-the-headlights' kinda look and either excuses themselves or changes the subject quickly.
Doesn't anyone SEE what is going on around us. We are NOT living in a safe world. We are living on the EDGE of psychopathic-dominated governments. Sometimes I feel like I'm living inside a video game.
...Speaking of that, if you haven't seen the movie "THE THIRTEENTH FLOOR", you should rent it......that is, if you liked the Matrix, you'll enjoy this also i think. It's about reality, simulated reality and our existence. Quite fascinating. .....
But back to sadness and despair. If you are reading this, and if you have children, are you looking out for their future?? Are you concerned about your retirement?? Are you the parent of a disabled child, wondering how they will survive after you are gone?? Are you wondering when the "Big One" will hit California?? There is so much to be concerned about, where do you start. And if, you are already one of the wide-awake humans who are already much concerned about all of the above, and more, let me direct you to a wonderful blog, the writer of this blog I admire from afar. She has her finger on the pulse of the universe, so to speak and there is much she can make one aware of with her writings........
Turn off the tv, turn down the radio. unplug your headphones.............here's the real world. Sorry it's not as much fun. But to survive you must first search for the truth.
go here:
http://laura-knight-jadczyk.blogspot.com/
Her latest post of 'bridge over troubled waters' really touched me deeply. See if it does the same for you.
~ The Mediator
psssssssssss. Wanna read about the climate changes that NONE OF US will escape?? It's just a matter of time. And, I'm not presenting this to you to scare or freak you out. This is something that's been held back from the public for a long time now.
If you are brave enough, you must visit todays alternative news site:
http://signs-of-the-times.org/signs/signs.php
Tuesday, January 24, 2006
TOXOPLASMOSIS AND PONEROLOGY ..... WHAT A PAIR
Toxoplasmosis is a word that I haven't heard for at least 15 years. That long ago, a woman I met had a child and he was suffering from the effects of toxoplasmosis. We (the woman and her child) met at a support group that was formed for women who had children with 'disabilities'. This word, toxoplasmosis ((or as I remember everyone referring to it as "kitty-cat disease")), has always stuck in my brain. Funny how certain events, dreams and apparently words stick in your consciousness............apparently to be retrieved at a later date when another word, dream or event happens to LINK them together to form a pattern, sentence, idea.
Apparently women who are pregnant should NOT clean out a cat's litter box due to the parasites that abound in cat feces. This CAN result in a child born with varying birth defects/issues. The young man that I met who suffered from this toxoplasmosis was blind and had a mild form of retardation. So sad it was to meet such a beautiful young child who would be faced with a difficult life. Anyway.........next ! ! !
Ponerology is the study of the science of evil. I had never heard of it until recently when reading another blog. The subject of ponerology excited me so for this reason.......I was married to a man who from the time we took our wedding vows until 25 years later when we were officially divorced, created much negative drama and sadness in me and in our children (our family). I could not understand, for such a long, long, long time what it was that drove this man (who I fell in love with) to constantly argue, belittle, demean, ridicule and abuse those who loved him most. Our lives were constantly in motion from the fear and uncertainty that popped up daily. It was like walking on eggshells...........never knowing when this man would blow his top and rant on and on about whatever the 'issue' was that he wanted to argue about. For years I tried to help our relationship. (at least I thought I was attempting to help save our relationship .. not understanding that it could not be saved).
- When he got angry I tried being silent and just listening, hoping that the yelling would stop, but it never did. Sometimes he'd yell for an hour and then fall exhasusted into a deep sleep.
- Sometimes when he got angry, I tried yelling back, but that didn't work either, he would just get angrier and angrier.
- I tried asking to remember our children, and what this was doing to them, but that didn't matter either, as he could NOT stop himself until he was totally exhausted from his ranting and raving. (this was just part of the issue(s) between us).
I always wondered WHAT IT WAS that made him incapable of loving his family. What was it that CHANGED INSTANTLY the day we took our wedding vows? Why was he ALWAYS RIGHT AND I ALWAYS WRONG?
Well, when I came across the subject of ponerology and sociopaths/psychopathic behaviors my answeres were right there. There are two different types of humans on this planet of ours. AND the connection between toxoplasmosis (a parasitic disease) and ponerology (an evil entity living off/syphoning energy off others) just hit me square between the eyes.
Check out this blog for a more in-depth explanation of this issue (ponerology) (toxoplasmosis).
http://ponerology.blogspot.com/
And, or for further research you can also go to:
http://signs-of-the-times.org/signs/signs.php
~ The Mediator
Friday, January 20, 2006
A CHANGE IN ATTITUDE BRINGS AMAZING RESULTS
Anyway, since the new year has begun I have been finding all kinds of things in my life are changing. And changing quickly.
Well, there's work...........Management is trying to disrupt and destroy our very honest and group effective working environment in our office. Suffice it to say, they actually were succeeding. Until I mentioned to the staff that maybe, just maybe, we should not take action, but just tell Management how we feel, what our sollutions to the problems we are facing, are and see what happens. All we told them was the truth.
Turns out that Management is V-E-R-Y stressed. And, our Manager is looking quite a bit older and grayer these last couple of weeks. Don't know if our strategy will work or is working, but the stress-of-the-situation has shifted and it is quite interesting to watch ((if one can detach oneself)).
Next there is family. I have moved recently and with this move was the intention that it would either help my son ((who is disabled)) become independent or I would realize that this was not something he would be able to achieve. Funny how one can be blinded by what is right in front of them. That's what was happening to me, as I quickly came to the conclusion that he ((my son)) did not have the DRIVE to be an independent person, capable of living alone.
Recently, my daughter's boyfriend of three years mentioned to her that he thought that we were 'babying' our beloved wonderful son/brother too much. That what the boyfriend was seeing was an individual struggling for independence ~~ where we were seeing an individual who needed constant care and companionship.
Well, armed with a different insight into my son's possible future, I consciously DECIDED that I would adopt the attitude that he ((my son)) was an ABLE BODIED HUMAN, that he was capable of living on-his-own, and that he would be successful in his attempts at reaching out to our new neighborhood and become a valuable part of the community.
FUNNY HOW A SHIFT IN ATTITUDE CHANGES EVERYTHING.
Shortly after I adopted my new 'attitude', I was slowly becoming aware that my son WAS CAPABLE of doing and being more than I was consciously giving him credit for. Quite possibly, he COULD become INDEPENDENT.
Now, this was scaring the begeesius out of me. Where a month ago, I was the same person, looking at the same young man, who WAS NOT capable of living independently.........with a shift of attitude I was now a person, looking at the same young man, who IS NOW CAPABLE of living independently.
How the heck did this happen. Was it truly just a SHIFT of attitude within me??? What can I say but, yes, this was all that happened. I just looked at a problem from a different angle/attitude/perspective.
THE WORLD IS ABSOLUTELY AMAZING.
Maybe in future posts, I can elaborate more on this mystery.
I'M GOING TO TRY TO SHIFT MORE OF MY ATTITUDES.
~~ The Mediator
Wednesday, January 04, 2006
Ponerology and the 'Others'
Ponerology is the study of evil. Ever heard of it?? Probably not. As it is something new to me also. But, once you start reading, you'll have a hard time stopping. Anyway, to get you started, if at all interested in learning about the 'other' type of human in our midst - - check out this bloggers site below. Also there is a terriffic article there on whistleblowers ....... read on:
Picked this article up at this bloggers site:
http://ponerology.blogspot.com/
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WHAT FATE AWAITS NSA SPYING WHISTLEBLOWERS
by: David Swanson
Can there be any doubt that if the White House finds out who leaked the story of its illegal spying, fierce retribution will follow? Another way of asking that question is: Should auld acquaintance be forgot and never brought to mind?
Remember what happened to Ambassador Joseph Wilson? The White House leaked to the media his wife's identity as an undercover agent for the CIA, putting her life and those of her colleagues in danger and ending her career.
And let us recall what became of General Eric Shinseki, Chief of Staff of the U.S. Army, who dared to accurately predict how many troops would be needed to occupy Iraq. Defense Department officials leaked the name of his replacement 14 months before his retirement, rendering him a lame duck commander and embarrassing and neutralizing the Army's top officer.
We should also bring back to mind the fate of Major General John Riggs. He told the Baltimore Sun that the Army needed at least another 10,000 soldiers because it was being stretched too thin between Iraq and Afghanistan. General George W. Casey told Riggs to "stay in your lane" and not discuss the troops. Riggs retired and was denied his full rank, officially for "minor infractions."
Does anyone remember Army Spc. Thomas Wilson, a 31-year-old member of a Tennessee National Guard unit? After asking Donald Rumsfeld why vehicle armor was still scarce nearly two years after the start of the war, Wilson was trashed as an insubordinate plant of the "liberal media."
..... this article can also be read at:
http://www.opednews.com/articles/opedne_david_sw_060101_what_fate_awaits_nsa.htm
more about David Swanson here::: http://www.davidswanson.org
Learn, gain knowledge and save your life.
~ The Mediator